Baby gender by Susan Grimsdell

The Labour Prime Minister of New Zealand, Jacinda Ardern, is going to have a baby.  She and her partner Clarke Gayford have known about the baby for four months, but chose not to tell us, the public.  I don’t think anyone would question that decision, considering that it’s a private matter for a start, and also that a percentage of pregnancies don’t make it past the first three months. Gender privacy Jacinda and Clarke know the gender of the baby, but have chosen to keep that as a private matter too.  I… Read More

But for the grace of God by Susan Grimsdell

Our local paper is doing a series on lost children; those terrible cases where the child goes missing and is never seen again. Today’s story is about a two year old whose parents were visiting a friend.  The mother was a former drug addict, the father a gang member.  The friend had a house on a lake, very close to the water.  There were several kids, the adults were getting a barbecue together, lots of activity going on.  The child was seen near the driveway when one of the adults went off… Read More

Progress for women by Susan Grimsdell

“You’ve come a long way baby”.  Remember that song?  It was a hit in 1998, nearly 20 years ago.  And we had come a long way.  Twenty years before that, in 1978, I had a well-paid professional job, but when I wanted a mortgage, my elderly retired father on a pension, had to sign for me.  He had the basic requirement needed by the bank – he was a man!  Women couldn’t get bank loans, not loans the size of a mortgage anyway. Inequality still alive and well Going way back, we… Read More

Thoughts on guilt by Trevor, Susan and Emily

Not guilty by Trevor I’m not sure why guilt was ever included in our wiring system. Apart from acting as a religious crowbar, it just doesn’t seem to have any use outside the law. For the rest of us, it’s a pretty useless part of the emotional locker. I formulated this theory as a child by discovering that you either got away with it or you didn’t; given the former, there’d be nothing to worry about and in the latter case, I was going to cop it anyway so why clog things… Read More

Tidiness by Susan Grimsdell

Household order I’m a very tidy person.  I put things away after I’ve used them, I never ever leave dishes in the sink, I dry the shower after I’ve used it, and I even do dusting. I have to confess I’m so extreme that it bothers me even to read about messy things in, say, novels.  If the plot has the character spilling something on the floor, many pages later, when the story has moved on, part of me is still worrying – “did he go back and wipe that up?” Email… Read More